Self-esteem - why care about effort vs attainment?

You should all be able to relate to this post from when you were at school.

If you are more concerned with one's attainment, e.g. grade / target / performance rating that someone receives. When one does NOT achieve this level, #selfesteem decreases

However, if you are more interested in one's effort and one always tries their best, #selfesteem remains intact.

This can be summarised as follows:

person rewarded for target + target not reached = #selfesteem decreases

person rewarded for effort + person tries their best = #selfesteem remains intact

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